Being a groomsman is about as high an honor a friend can get. Okay, maybe godfather tops this slightly, but up until your friends have kids, being a groomsman on your buds big stage is about as big as any game day can ever get. However, it may come as a shock to learn that your role goes beyond delivering an ill-advised speech littered with jokes and stories that could lead to an annulment.
Yes, that’s right, we’re saying you need to take your role seriously and help your buddy through the most nerve-wracking day of his entire life. Of course, there is something in it for you too because, well, acting like the level-headed rock that your friend can rely on will probably help you impress one or two of the bridesmaids. Come on, it’s a wedding ritual.
So, here are our top tips on how to be the best groomsman ever:
You would be forgiven for thinking a wedding is just one day where a man and a woman say yes to each other and then have a party. However, it is much more strenuous than this. There are loads of pre-wedding festivities and you need to be in attendance at them all. Engagement party, couple shower, bachelor party, rehearsal dinner, the wedding itself – all of them.
The best man is in charge of this ritual. That’s how it goes. However, he is going to need some help and that is where you can be of great assistance. It could be coming up with themes, putting forward ideas, organizing the drinks and food, booking a table somewhere, pulling some strings so you can enjoy a weekend away or just making a call to a company that can help teach you about the female anatomy. It is your duty.
Know Your Limits
You are not going to be scrutinized in the same way the groom or best man is, but you still don’t want to let the wedding party down. That means knowing your limits when it comes to the free bar or at least investing in some shirt stays and dark glasses to hide just how happy you are. There is always one person that threatens to ruin a wedding by accident; don’t let it be you.
It is well within your duties to conspire with the best man, maid of honor and bridesmaids to decorate the honeymoon car in style. That means putting the ribbons on, adding a sign, dropping some cans and, yes, hiding a little cheeky something that will make them giggle and blush somewhere.
Yeah, you are part of the wedding and that means people are going to flock to you for information. That could be where are the bathrooms, what time are carriages due or “who was that man sat two over from Jim at the church? Was it Sheila’s nephew?” Get used to this, it is part of your role. You are a hub of insider information and people know it or think it, one of the two.